Mutual Gain is Self Respect

About 6 months ago, my neighbor asked me for the Wi-Fi password. I gave it to him because it didn't cost me anything and because I got along with him. Yesterday I was walking home and he was at the door. I stopped to talk a bit as usual, and he happily told me he now has Netflix. At that, I jokingly said: ′′ I work hard, barely have time to watch TV, but it's great, if you could lend me your password to watch some shows I'd appreciate it ". A voice was heard in the distance, it was his wife, sitting in the car: ′′ We can't give it to him, because I'm the one who pays and I can't share it."

The most total silence reigned!

The man apologized subheading, I said there was no problem. We kept talking about other things, as they went in, he stayed out doing his stuff. Shortly thereafter, his wife came out to call him, she seemed very nervous, said the television wasn't working. My neighbor came into the house, I looked out the window. After a few minutes, he and his wife came to call me and told me the Wi-Fi wasn't working, that the password wasn't going in. I looked at them and said, ′′ I changed my password, because it's me paying and I can't share it ". The wife turned red and tried to say something, but I said, ′′ Ma'am, I have my network and you have your Netflix, everything is fine and everyone is happy ". They turned around and left closing the door. They never spoke to me again.

This story isn't mine, but here's the lesson I learned from it:

- Friendship must be mutual.

- Love must be mutual.

- Affection must be mutual.

In 2022 I intend to return 𝗦𝗜𝗟𝗘𝗡𝗖𝗘 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗦𝗜𝗟𝗘𝗡𝗖𝗘;

𝗔𝗕𝗦𝗘𝗡𝗖𝗘𝗦 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗔𝗕𝗦𝗘𝗡𝗖𝗘𝗦;

𝗔𝗙𝗙𝗘𝗖𝗧𝗜𝗢𝗡 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗔𝗙𝗙𝗘𝗖𝗧𝗜𝗢𝗡;

𝗙𝗥𝗜𝗘𝗡𝗗𝗦𝗛𝗜𝗣 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗙𝗥𝗜𝗘𝗡𝗗𝗦𝗛𝗜𝗣;

and 𝗟𝗢𝗬𝗔𝗟𝗧𝗬 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗟𝗢𝗬𝗔𝗟𝗧𝗬.

No more unidirectional feelings. Feelings must be mutual.

PS. If you're only good for taking, take it a little bit in ...!!!! 

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SIMPLE. If your kid/s call someone twice older by first name, and as a parent you allowed it - YOU are enabler. As part of our culture, Filipinos call older 'non-relatives' grandfather, grandmother, uncle or aunt, etc even when they are NOT actually related in this way. It is an acknowledgement of their age and respect. 

With that been said, I don’t think there’s justification that today’s generation can call people twice their age by their first name especially if they are your parents NOT by blood, but by choice. Imagine calling your Aunt/Tita or Uncle/Tito by their first name. That to me - is being ungrateful and disrespectful. 

Be a parent. Call out the bad behavior of your kid/s right away. There should be no next time. Excusing the negative choices and attitude of your kid/s, or dismissing that there is actually a problem - is not going to help them. Infact, you are enabling.

BE BRAVER EVERYDAY, fighter! You’re allowed to scream. You’re allowed to cry. You’re allowed to be silent. Go take a break! But never give up…

Much more… You are tougher than your demons. You are greater than the pains and worries. Always look for stars. Soon things will be brighter…

- Your family doesn't know how much difficulties and pressure you go through in your daily life or in your job.

- And your work doesn't know the circumstances of your life and your home.

- Your colleagues, your friends and loved ones will not understand the size of the new and old responsibilities that are above you.

- And your partner is always expecting unconditional love and support from you, he won't understand the amount of pressure you go through no matter how much you talk and explain to him.

Bottom line nobody feels for you but yourself. No one will understand what you're really going through and they most likely don't appreciate efforts.

Just keep on keeping on... Fight... take care of yourself. ctto

I hope you end up with someone who plants calm love

Everyone deserves a love that is meant to be calm. 🙏 To sit with themselves, calm their storms, and heal all of their issues without trying to bring anyone else into that chaos.

I hope you end up with someone who plants calm love. 

Someone who acknowledges your feelings, listens to your explanations, and stays kind even after a misunderstanding.

Someone who is safe to be told about your shortcomings and disappointments because you know that they always put themselves in the position to understand you.

Someone who does not resort into fights for petty reasons. Someone who makes you forget that you're carrying too much weight of the world. And someone who always speaks out of pure intentions.

I hope you end up with that someone. Because, if there's anything you deserve, it is someone who learns how to love you in the the most gentle way. Someone who will remind you that love is always meant to be calm. 

ccto

Rewinding time is not possible, but “do-over’s” are. We get another chance to do something right the second time. 

Whatever you lack, I got you. 

Setback? We’ll make a major comeback.

You need support? I’ll be your backbone.

WE’RE A TEAM. For all you are. For all you do. You Got Me. I Got Us.

#momswisdom #strengthbeyondstrength #OKNotToBeOK #noDramajustRealTalk 👍🥰

Choose Your Hard

#ChooseYourHard with a Mind of a Queen and Heart of a Warrior. Protect your relationship/marriage. Don’t let outsiders destroy what took years for you to build.

Telling someone with anxiety to just calm down is like telling someone with epilepsy to just stop having seizures. Don’t invalidate someone because you have no idea. We all have anxieties. Just different levels. Someone may seem and look fine or strong. But who knows what kind of monsters they keep battling in their heads all the time.

Respect! 😉