Men and Marriage

I just want to share this post from FB. (....from a man's point of view  daw) 

Last week we threw a bachelor party for one of our good friends  and then on Saturday afternoon we stood beside him in our tuxes while he and his fiancee said their vows. As I stood up there looking across the crowd, decided that our next topic on this page would definitely talk about marriage. I also realized that a lot of women may not want to hear the truth about men and marriage because the truth is so simple that they could not accept it without questioning their own  relationship. 

But I am here to tell you - DON'T FOOL YOURSELF,  IT'S  NOT THAT COMPLICATED. 

The sad thing about it is that it took a woman  to bring it to my attention. 

I had a close friend of mine tell me that  she was pursuing a stable man with a girlfriend. When I asked her did she  feel wrong about that she said "Shit, a girlfriend ain't nothin  -girlfriends come and go. If the man is established and he isn't either married or engaged, then he is not that serious about her and he is fair game" 

I thought about this for a minute and came to a cold conclusion: IF A MAN IS STABLE IN LIFE AND HE IS IN A RELATIONSHIP AND NOT MARRIED,  THEN IT IS BECAUSE HE IS NOT SURE ABOUT THE WOMAN THAT HE IS WITH. 

He is not willing to commit to her and constantly has his eye open for something  better or is waiting for her to become something better. Pointblank. When he finds a woman that he is satisfied with, he will make her his wife. 

And ladies, sorry to tell some of you, but it doesn't take 4 or 5  years for that man to figure it out. It doesn't take 2 or 3 years  either. The only reason that a man will get married after that long of  a time is because he's tired of looking for something better. And trust me, that's definitely what he was doing all of those years. 

So if you  should happen to find yourself in one of those "long term" relationships then  maybe you should step back, take a look at yourself and wonder what it is  that you're missing that this man is not willing to fully commit. Don't make  excuses to yourself and your girlfriends saying things like "Oh he's waiting  til he gets a better job" or "he's waiting to finish school" or "he's waiting  until he moves from his apartment to a house". DON'T FOOL YOURSELF, IT'S NOT  THAT COMPLICATED. Which one of those things can't be done with a wife or  fiancee by your side? 

So ladies, when you read this think about your  situation and that man that you are living with. Or the one that you spend  many nights over his house or him over yours. Think about your baby's father  that you are still in a sexual relationship with.  Think about your "ex"  that you are in a sexual relationship with.  Think about your  "boyfriend". And definitely think twice before you brag on a  relationship that's a couple of years long and you still have no  commitment. 

Like I've said before, I'm a man and I know the situation.  I've been there and I know that we can come up with some extremely  reasonable excuses, but.....DON'T FOOL YOURSELF, IT'S NOT THAT  COMPLICATED. :)